Night terror, or psychosis? Please help?
Alicia Ali Holt Asked: Night terror, or psychosis? Please help?
Well, not sure how to begin.
Last night I was sleeping happily with my cat in my bed. About 2 hours into my sleep I was having somewhat unusual dreams then very unusual dreams (dreamt I was a pregnant cat then a human but I gave birth to a cobra lol) but then I saw a ghostly looking man with thick black hair. He had only his body up to his chest. No lower body. Suddenly I felt a horrible rush of panic. I could hear him swishing about in the wind and I felt a feeling like I never had before. I opened my eyes and I could still see him with red eyes and his body was like that of waves. According to my mum, I was then screaming and calling out for help. It happened again in the night when my mum told me to sleep in the same room as her so she could monitor me. I repeatedly told her that "demons are trying to posess me". I had never felt a sensation of terror at this level. I also felt ill in the night so I slept on my back until I felt better. However, I also suffer from brief psychotic disorder and I'm wondering whenever it was one of those rare night terrors where you can recall what was terrifying me or a really bad hallucination/psychotic episode. Or maybe even both. I still feel haunted today. I am 15 and female.
The purpose of me to join yahoo answer is to help people understand that there are medical solutions and reasons for Night Terrors. You will not be preached to here or told that Satan caused your Night Terrors. Night Terrors are a medical ailment and not demon posession. (Contrary to what others may tell you.)
Sleep labs across the United States and Canada have shown through sleep studies, that Night Terrors happen due to increased brain activity.The common thought among researchers is that a chemical trigger in the brain causes your brain to "misfire" and cause a Night Terror. These misfires can be caused by many factors such as stress and various other medical ailments.
Sudden awakening from sleep, persistent fear or terror that occurs at night, screaming, sweating, confusion, rapid heart rate, inability to explain what happened, usually no recall of "bad dreams" or nightmares, may have a vague sense of frightening images. Many people see spiders, snakes, animals or people in the room, are unable to fully awake, difficult to comfort, with no memory of the event on awakening the next day.
Nightmares occur during the dream phase of sleep known as REM sleep. Most people enter the REM stage of sleep sometime after 90 minutes of sleep. The circumstances of the nightmare will frighten the sleeper, who usually will wake up with a vivid memory of a long movie-like dream. Night terrors, on the other hand, occur during a phase of deep non-REM sleep usually within an hour after the subject goes to bed. This is also known as stage 4. During a night terror, which may last anywhere from five to twenty minutes, the person is still asleep, although the sleepers eyes may be open. When the subject does wake up, they usually have no recollection of the episode other than a sense of fear. This, however, is not always the case. Quite a few people interviewed can remember portions of the night terror, and some remember the whole thing.
On the whole, it sounds like she is really, really unhappy.Was it an arranged marriage?Is she getting worse?There could be something medically wrong with her – hormones, etc., that could be affecting her moods.Have you had a calm, mature talk about how these tantrums of hers are affecting you and the marriage?
Your first job as a parent is to protect the kids.If she is being neglectful and/or abusive to them, then you need to step in and tell her in no uncertain terms that she has gone too far and that you will do what you need to do to protect them.If that means asking her to leave, then so be it.You should be consulting a lawyer about the laws in your area in regards to your rights and responsibilities to your children and your wife.Do not let your kids see violence because it is traumatizing them and they will learn that it is acceptable behavior (because neither of you are doing anything to put a final stop to it).
After consulting a lawyer, you should suggest marriage counselling to your wife.If she refuses to go, then you will have your answer about whether the marriage is worth salvaging.
17 years is a long time..and you have children.This is a tough question because there are reasons to leave based on her behavior.I would though, like to respectfully suggest that you two get into counseling and fast.You need an outside objective opinion on whether this is a marraige to save.Also a counselor should also be able to identify if there is any mental illness going on.I say all of this because I am in the middle of a horrific divorce and I nor my kids are doing well at all.In fact, it has gotten so bad I have started a blog- (http://survivingblog.com)for people like us who are going through such things.I would like to invite to visit and would be happy to offer you support as you go through this process.I hope that every possible thing that can be done is done…but that doesn't mean that divorce is not out of the question.The needs of the children are first and foremost in situations such as these…and as I'm sure you know they can be greatly affected by your wife's actions as well as the reprocussions of a divorce.Just know that I feel for you and know that you are not alone!
if you dont love your wife, divorce her man,
Your children will grow up. They will in their own way.
Do anything that gives you peace.
If i had loved my wife, i would never leave her. not for myself, but for her.