Friend had miscarriage, so scared for her? what happens? Long question but so important for me, plea

Alex Asked: Friend had miscarriage, so scared for her? what happens? Long question but so important for me, plea

3 weeks ago Today, my friend (just 18 years old) got taken to hospital because of stomach pains and not being able to keep down any fluids. She told me she was in for 2 days on a drip. She only told me Yesterday, however, it was because she, despite always using 2 precautions during sex (she told me this) she had somehow fallen pregnant. She didn't realise this until she was in hospital. The nurses told her she was pregnant but had had a miscarriage, bless her heart. She told me that she would have probably had an abortion anyway, as she's not ready for children. However, this was 3 weeks ago, and she still regularly feels really ill, and sleeps throughout the day and night. Is this normal? I'm really scared for her, and want to help her in any way I can, I love her so much. I don't know what happens or why miscarriages happen, but would like to know stuff about them, so I know what to do to help my friend. How long do the tiredness and illness usually go on for? I'm so terrified, and have told her I'm always at the end of a phone or Facebook etc, at any time of the day or night, if she ever needs a chat, and I'll always be there for her. Are miscarriages common? She told me she is ok with what has happened now, and she didn't want a child anyway. But she needs psychologists throughout her life due to eating disorders and depression, so how will this really be affecting her? She is usually such a bubbly, beautiful girl who's smile lights up all rooms, so to see her ill all the time is so upsetting and scary. Will she be ok? She lives quite far away, so I can't just go and see her, but I told her, I will do anything for her, and if she needs me there, then I will drop everything I'm doing to go and see her to help. She said her boyfriend has taken it really badly, but I can't speak to him as she said he never wants to think about it, which is understandable. Please help, I don't care how 'grim' the details are, all I want to know is what has happened/how can I help her through this, as I'm sure she isn't as 'ok' with it as she said she is. I'm thinking of ringing her this morning, but don't know what to say, or don't want to upset her, but I care so much for her, I didn't get any sleep last night as I was worried sick for her. I love her so much as a friend :) Thank you for help


ECSxx Answered:
Aaah that's sad, bless her. Calling her would be a good idea, or maybe meeting up with her. At this time she would really need a good friend who loves her to be there for her. Miscarriages are uncommon, but incredibly sad when they occur. Good luck! Hope goes well x

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